The Living Energy of Needs, even Unmet Needs

(Note: NVC is an abbreviation for Nonviolent Communication, a fluid, ever-evolving language process created by Dr. Marshall Rosenberg. It is also sometimes referred to as Compassionate Communication, and is based on universal human feelings and needs, the giving of empathy and making humble requests rather than demands. For information on services offered by Steve Pollack, please visit

NVC innovators like Robert Gonzales and Susan Skye have pioneered a new way of viewing the unmet needs that tend to be surrounded by so much pain. They suggest that if we focus our attention inwardly to the needs themselves, then it is not so much about having our needs met, but more about having a “meeting with our needs.”

To commune with the living energy of the needs themselves, is to see the beauty in our basic human nature. Those universal needs, met or unmet, are part of what makes us human, part of what connects us to all humanity. Those needs can never be taken away from us, even when they are temporarily and painfully unfulfilled.

If we take this a step further to actually meditate deeply on the beauty of the needs within us, even when they are painfully unfulfilled in the outer world…we then become more vibrationally attuned to those needs. In that state, we are more likely to attract the people, places, things, situations, etc., where those needs can more easily and naturally be fulfilled.

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About swpollack

I’m an independent mediator and collaborative communication coach who can help you to co-create greater ease, connection and mutual understanding in your personal and professional relationships. As a non-traditional specialist, my aim is to get concrete results for my clients in a fraction of the time usually required by traditional therapy and counseling. Please visit my business website: . The emotion-based coaching work I do is deeply therapeutic, yet I am neither a psychologist nor a psychotherapist. Instead I work with a holistic, empathic process called compassionate, nonviolent communication. I also facilitate ongoing support groups for people who want to learn this organic process of nonjudgmental communication to help build bridges of connection, harmony, collaboration and understanding. For more about my Build Compassionate Relationships meetup group, visit: . I’ve been offering these services to the public since 2000 in the greater Miami and Fort Lauderdale area, as well as by phone and through Skype conferencing. . Nonviolent Communication is a process developed by Dr. Marshall Rosenberg. It’s based on a very pure, nonjudgmental language of feelings, needs and requests. I’ve found this to be a powerful tool in my mediation work which involves bringing two or more people together despite a painful history of conflict.
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